"That happened" is the best Buddhist phrase I have learned so far. "That happened" is well-supplemented (or prefaced by) by a laugh. Saying "that happened" can be the panacea for anything life throws at you. "That happened" removes denial and puts you in your actual environment . How are you going to be upset in your actual environment? Your actual environment just is .
This has been revelatory in how I see the world. I used to see things and think, " that makes no sense... " I would try to figure out why the person performed out of character.
Most of college I thought I learned little. With more distance, I realize I learned large ideas only absorbable over the course of many months, so college was a useful place to learn them. What did I learn? 1. Everything in life is a tradeoff.